Hospitality venues tackling loneliness this Christmas

Christmas is a weird time for many. Family, friends, food, drinks and joy are presented as the Clinton Card Christmas we are all supposed to crave. So what happens when Christmas is a time you dread a little? 

Loneliness isn’t new. In fact in 2025 it is at peak levels across all age brackets. 

The Office of National Statistics stated that 26% of Britons report feeling lonely at least some of the time. But when Christmas rears its tinsel adorned head that figure multiplies exponentially. And just last year, Age UK revealed in it’s 2024 ‘Together Not Alone’ campaign that “about a million older people (590,000 to be precise) aged over 65 in the UK won’t see or speak to anyone on Christmas Day and 1.4 million will eat dinner on their own. 

The number of people spending Christmas Day alone has sky rocketed, doubling from 5-11% in a 55 year period according to a study by the Policy Institute at King’s College London. They also revealed that one in 11 21-34 year olds will be spending the holiday on their own this year, increasing from one in 100 who said the same 55 years ago.

As someone who is deep in the depths of the second year of widowdom I think we have to accept that there are many reasons some people choose to see Santa on Christmas Day solo. For some it might be a CHOICE. I mean, I for one have been offered many invitations to spend my first Christmas Day at friend’s houses’ but I declined them all. The main reason for me being is that I didn’t have the energy to mask, I also would feel incredibly guilty if I broke down crying in my Christmas pudding, ruining someone’s festive joy. Added guilt on the big day is something I don’t need to add to my already overflowing festive anguish. 

For people that do still want to connect over the festive period and the big day itself, hospitality venues can play a vital role in bridging that gap. 

Pubs are connection hubs in their local communities and this was echoed in the BBPA’s Long Live The Local campaign, where 30% of people surveyed say “they or someone they know has felt isolated and lonely due to the loss of their local pub”. 

Trees are now going up and Christmas lights are officially on in the places we live, so I wanted to take a few moments to put together a directory of venues doing incredible things to tackle loneliness at a time when people are most vulnerable. Hopefully this blog post will help someone or maybe even prompt some venues / people to host their own festive get-togethers. 

I’ll add listings to the directory as I find more – if you want to be included, drop me a comment or message me via @craftbeerpinup on Instagram. I’ll do some follow -up content on Instagram/Tik Tok to get this out there into the world too.

PUBS

The Alexandra Pub (Wimbledon)

I’m passing the mic to them because what the team have written on their website is just magical and I couldn’t possibly rephrase it better myself: 

“Christmas can be a heart-string-pulling, lump-in-your-throat kind of time, especially without loved ones around the table (or someone to share that last roast potato with). If you find yourself alone this Christmas Day, please come and join us at The Alex. 

“Every year, we open our doors with complimentary, joy-spreading, plate-piling dinners for anyone who would otherwise be spending the day solo, and it’s not just a meal, it’s a proper, warm-hug-around-the-soul kind of celebration (with crackers and plenty of pudding seconds).

“It’s completely on us, no questions, no catches,  just community at its most heartwarming. If you’d like to help us make the day even more magical, we’ve got charity boxes on each of our bars, and you can now donate by card too (every penny goes straight into stuffing stockings and filling plates).”

2025 marks the tenth year that Mick and Sarah have hosted a free Christmas lunch at their pub.

Image: The Alexandra

Visit the Alexandra Pub Website to find out more.

The Guy Earl of Warwick, Welling

Every year this amazing pub opens its doors, offering free meals to those in need on Christmas Day! This year is set to be bigger and better – they have presents for everyone and lots of festive games! The pub is also open 12–3pm for drinks for our other guests who’d like to join us in celebrating the day.

“Christmas is about community, kindness, and togetherness – and we can’t wait to share it with you all.” — Ray , Bon and the guy fam 🍻.

Pop them a message on Facebook to attend.

Pride of the Peaks, New Mills

Shellie and Jimmy Hagan who run the pub put on a range of fundraisers in the lead up to the festive season so they can host their annual free two-course dinner, deliver afternoon teas and Christmas Hampers to isolated OAPs. They’ve ran this event for 14 years now – incredible! 

On Friday 28th Nov they host the 3 legged Santa Saunter/fancy Dress Pub Crawl  to raise vital funds for OAP Christmas. It’s £5 to take part and taking part brings vital funds to their neighbouring pubs too. Community spirit at its finest! 

Pride of the Peaks Facebook 

Food parcels from last year’s collection at The Pride of the Peaks

Sawley Arms, Shropshire

The new pub owners have vowed to not break the pub’s annual tradition of hosting a free 2-course festive meal for seniors. They invite you to join them for a festive day to remember on 17th December at noon – they have a raffle, prizes galore and promise a welcoming, family-style atmosphere. 

Here’s all the info:

Proper Pubs spread festive cheer! 

Proper pubs launch festive appeal to provide drinks and festive messages for people in need in their communities! 

From Saturday, November 22nd to Saturday, December 20th, 220 pubs falling under the banner of Proper Pubs (a division of Admiral Taverns) are asking their customers to write Christmas cards to people who might be spending the holiday season alone. There’s also an option to purchase a drink for the recipient that can via a drinks receipt stapled into the card to be be redeemed at a later date too. 

Each pub will provide a list of potential recipients for customers to choose from including patients in local hospitals, members of community groups, and residents of nursing homes.

Each pub will handle the delivery of the cards, making it easy for anyone who wishes to take part. The cards will be sent out on December 20, aiming to spread a bit of much-needed festive joy. 

Over the past three years, Proper Pubs has been involved in donating nearly 50,000 Christmas selection boxes and advent calendars to local charities. Proper pubs is currently encouraging its operators to collect as many selection boxes for individuals and families in need this year.

Check if your local Proper Pub is taking part and participate in this amazing campaign by search for your nearest and giving them a call:  https://proper-pubs.com/our-proper-pubs/

I checked who is participating in the West Midlands and here’s a handy hit list for this region:

The Ashmore Inn in Wolverhampton, the Ashwood Inn in Stourbridge, the Bear in Stafford, the Boars Head in Oswestry, the Bridge Inn in Trench, the Castle in Dudley, the Coach & Horses in West Bromwich, the County in Willenhall, the Jolly Crispin in Stourbridge, the United Kingdom Inn in Willenhall, the Watergate in Whitchurch, the White Swan in Warley and the Wonder in Tividale.

I’ve asked the Admiral team for the full list to drop here for ease.

I spoke to The Wonder in Tividale and they added:

“We are also collecting money for Claire house children’s hospice. Any donations can be dropped to the pub anytime and we will have our Christmas cards out from Monday 24th November.”

OTHER HOSPITALITY VENUES & BUSINESSES DOING AMAZING THINGS

Flying Pig Catering, Warwick

The amazing team at Flying Pig catering are looking for 100 guests for its Christmas Feast this year, after catering for 47 last year. Please spread the word for owners, Matt and Charlotte Jaynes.

The location for the feast is revealed when people register for the event but here’s all the info for now:

Lowe’s on Carter Street, Uttoxeter

Offers three-course Christmas dinners – complete with Christmas cracker, card and presents for the children – completely free! 

The community scheme was launched by chef George Lowe, who runs the restaurant with his wife Jemma – they delivered over 200 meals last Christmas. All the meals are freshly prepared by the Lowes’ team, then delivered on Christmas Eve, ready to reheat the following day.

George said in a recent article in the Daily Focus: “2025 has been tougher than ever financially for many people. The cost-of-living crisis has got worse and food prices are rising. People are struggling mentally, physically and financially, that’s why this year, Jemma and I feel it’s more important than ever to give back.

“We don’t ask questions. It could be that people simply can’t afford to cook Christmas dinner, it could be that someone is spending their first Christmas alone because they’ve lost someone close – whatever the reason they don’t have to tell us, we will help.”

Anyone who is struggling and would benefit from a Lowe’s Christmas dinner, or who knows someone who would, should email info@lowesoncarterstreet.com

Cathedral Quarter Hotel, Derby

This hotel in St Mary’s Gate is offering half price stays – complete with breakfast, lunch and a traditional Christmas dinner – for people who don’t have family plans in December and January.

 “I really don’t want people feeling lonely this Christmas,” says Operations Manager Isuru Akalanka. “I want guests to arrive as strangers and leave as friends.”

Located in the heart of Derby, this beautifully refurbished Grade II listed hotel is a warm, welcoming space to spend the holidays. 

Cosy rooms are available from £80 (single) or £90 (double) per night (full board). They promise delicious festive menus, heart-warming activities and the chance to make new friends. To book, call 01332 850330. 

Shearbridge Wedding Hall, Shearbridge Road, Bradford

Dynamic Social Care, known for supporting vulnerable adults, is hosting its a community Christmas dinner at 1.30pm on Christmas Day. The event is geared around tackling festive loneliness. 

The free event will provide a three-course meal, entertainment, and a raffle, and transport can be arranged.

With only 60 places available, the elderly and carers are encouraged to book early by calling 07599 674634 or 01274 728323.

A £5 deposit is required to secure a place, refundable on the day.

Bridgnorth Rugby Club, Shropshire

I watched their video promoting their ‘Together at Christmas’ annual festive lunch and what a heartwarming watch it is! Here’s a snippet:

The team have opened up bookings for guests to join them for Christmas Dinner in a warm, family atmosphere. They really don’t want anyone in Bridgnorth to be on their own on what should be a joyous day. 

To get involved: Call (leave a message if no answer) to book 01746 768129 or Email bridgnorthtac@gmail.com 

One Day at Christmas: 10 venues on Friday 5th December

Organised by the UK Events industry, this charity event brings 3,500 people together who are alone or isolated. Our 70 organisations team together to host a Christmas Day Experience at the following venues:

  • Coventry Building Society Arena
  • Nec Birmingham
  • Excel, London
  • Manchester Central
  • Royal Armouries
  • Farnborough International 
  • Business design Centre
  • SEC, Glasgow
  • Tobacco Dock, London
  • P&J Live Aberdeen 

It’s free to attend, you just need to register your interest via: https://www.onedayatchristmas.com/guest-registration. They also call out for volunteers and sponsors too if you’re interested.

Jackson’s Lane, Highgate

They plan to deliver Christmas hampers and gifts to 200 isolated adults in the borough, and welcome 100 guests to a Christmas Day lunch full of festive spirit, food and entertainment.

Last year over 150 volunteers helped to make all this possible. They are currently in need of drivers to help their vulnerable guests travel to and from Jacksons Lane on Christmas Day, and to deliver their hampers. Please reach out if you can help via this form.

Please contact them via email if you’d like to refer an adult in need on Christmas Day. They are jam packed but there is a stand-by list currently. 

Please consider supporting Jacksons Lane JustGiving campaign or visiting their Christmas Day Gift List. Every donation will make a real difference in making Christmas better for many people.

Warwick Street Kitchen, Leamington Spa

I launched this monthly event to encourage people to come and make new friends and as a way to encourage sharing – both food and thoughts. Many people are anxious to dine alone for a number of reasons, and I wanted this to be a safe space for all ages to attend. Feel free to come for just a drink. The food is small and shareable so it’s not as big a commitment as a 3-course sit down meal occasion.

Come and sit with us. Drop me a comment if you’d like to join this month’s event.

Follow WSK on Instagram.

If your a venue doing anything awesome this festive season to combat loneliness and strengthen your community, please drop me a line via Instagram or dropping a comment here and I’ll add you into this directory.

Cheers.

Safer and more welcoming spaces – I’ll drink to that

I wrote this follow blog before the news was announced that The Great British Festival (GBBF) would be no more.

It has been well over a month since my experience at GBBF and with those terrible scaffolders on the same day. I wanted to recap what happened next, while also assessing what we can do moving forward to make festivals, events and venues safer and more welcoming spaces. 

Before I launch into the “beer stuff” I wanted to say a massive “thanks” to Ember Construction who I emailed about BSL scaffolders harassing me. Although it wasn’t their job (they were looking after the one over the road) they took it upon themselves to call the scaffolders and give them a telling off! They also assured me that they won’t ever work with BSL Scaffolding again. They didn’t have to call them, especially as it wasn’t anything to do with them and I just wanted to take a moment to applaud them for this superb allyship. 

So what happened immediately after GBBF? 

After my original article and associated Instagram post went live, the CAMRA Chairman Ash-Corbett Collins left the following comment on my Instagram:

I was in touch with Tom Stainer, Chief Exec at CAMRA to discuss what happened at GBBF and I never got any further on receiving an ‘official’ quote about what the next steps would be. 

However, I do know Laura Emson (People Director for Events and Awards) outside of CAMRA and we’ve had an extensive chat about what we can do (while wearing our many hats) to make a difference to the festival experience moving forward. We currently work on projects together for Women on Tap CIC – Laura is currently on its Advisory Board. 

I know Laura was working tirelessly at GBBF and a few volunteers messaged me during the festival to say that my blog was mentioned in volunteer briefings and “changes were made” there and then at GBBF. So that’s good to know. Laura confirmed afterwards that changes like moving tables and enhanced quiet spaces for volunteers were put into action while the festival was happening which is positive. 

I know people were busy but I wish I had confirmation of the full list of improvements that had been made while the festival was still on because I might have been persuaded to return to the festival and the Brum Beer Babs meet-up I was due to attend on Friday. I’d been put off attending by some troll account that left me the following message (the account was later deleted):

I know Laura would have taken my call at the drop of a hat if I’d have has taken that step. But I was conscious that I didn’t want this to just become Laura’s problem or responsibility when she had enough on her plate at GBBF.

We know that GBBF will be now be no more but that doesn’t mean we can’t take stock and learn from what happened. I just want festivals, trade events, tap rooms, and the industry as a whole to be a safer place for all. A welcoming one, one that encourages and welcomes more new people into the community because we need more people to spend more on beer so that the businesses / brands and places we love can survive! In the current world we are living in – community and connection is more important than ever. 

I know that the behaviours experienced on a micro-level at GBBF are symptomatic of those on the rise nationally and worldwide but I am of the opinion that instead of me being paralysed with inaction and negativity, that I want to use this experience to do something about it. I love this industry and I won’t be pushed out. I also want to pave the way for other people to join – and not be put off. 

Laura and I are currently working under the banner of Women on Tap CIC with Rachel Auty on a few initiatives. More about one of those later in this post. 

Was this just me? 

I wanted to do some further investigation. Firstly around GBBF but then moving on to see if it’s just beer. What is it like for women working in other drinks settings? 

I also wanted to explore beyond drinks and into music – we all know that industry is rife with misogyny and yet, some of the music festivals really get it right in terms of cultivating safe spaces for communities to thrive. What can we learn from them? 

Then in the final part – I’ll loop back to what’s worked well so far,  looking at some practical examples we can all learn from and follow. 

Grab a comfy seat, and let’s delve into what I found. 

GBBF – how was it for other attendees?

After my experience I asked people to come forward with their own experiences of GBBF and I collated these anonymous responses on my Instagram. Here’s a few below, and to view them all you can in my GBBF Instagram Highlights on Instagram.

What struck me is that the ripples, as suspected, are deeper than just the guest attendee experience but also the volunteers and trade / industry too. These behaviours have been allowed to thrive and before we go feet first diving into bashing GBBF/CAMRA, it’s not just that festival. It’s bigger than that. 

Also, many people are just generally put off attending CAMRA events in general. What can we do to change that? 

I asked a few people I know and respect in the industry to drop in their thoughts on GBBF and Lucy, Owner of The Dodo Micropub said: 

“I actually purposely avoid most CAMRA beer festivals because there’s often some sort of sexist micro aggression/undertone. Examples below – these would just not be comments made if I was a man.

“At GBBF one year, the man behind the bar remarked in surprise that I knew quite a lot about beer. It was the trade session you’d hope there was beer knowledge amongst most people! 

In my original post I emphasised that for some reason the perpetrators think that GBBF is a safe space for them to say and do as they please. I’ve always had negative experiences at GBBF – I’ve been going for 15 years. I knew when I attended even back then that I needed a thicker skin and it was just accepted that I’d have to “just deal with it” while there. All my colleagues knew it too when I was there on a work front. We actually even had strategies in place to helicopter me out of difficult conversations and scenarios. Sad but true. I also documented a few experiences I had at BrewLDN a few years back – so it’s not just GBBF.

Maybe one angle to consider about why GBBF didn’t work and was often placed on people’s ‘avoid list’ for many is this one from David Jesudason

It’s my belief that large beer festivals are unsafe spaces for people like me as it’s like having 60 pubs crammed in one space but without 60 publicans. And in one-off events people behave terribly

David Desi Pubs Dason (@davidjesudason.bsky.social) 2025-08-06T16:48:52.952Z

So we really need to review the model for who’s on the ground, running these festivals and events. The volunteer model of running events and alcohol consumption aren’t always aligned. Rachel Hendry from Burum Collective added:

“It’s really important people work with those who have experience managing and facilitating social spaces where alcohol is consumed – volunteers aren’t always going to cut it when it comes to important factors such as knowing when to cut people off, implementing structures of safety and spotting the signs of inappropriate behaviour. 

However we know the problem is bigger than GBBF and beer festivals as content creator, Della Hyde who has worked in the industry for years echoes:

“We women, have to know twice as much, work twice as hard and be twice as likeable to have half the recognition that men get in the industry. Men can make mistakes, they can even be downright rude, but women have to always be polite, kind and approachable. Because of this we smile through, while we endure micro sexism because to point it out every time we are la led a problem incredibly quickly. That label spreads and damages the credibility we have worked incredibly hard for.

“A tight rope of endurance and fame smiles falls on women to walk. Isn’t any wonder women are turning away from the beer industry in droves?”

Surely this is bigger than beer? 

Would I have fared better at a gin event for example?

Generally the handful of people I survey about gin were pretty favourable about being a woman in the industry. Some say their experiences have been only what can be referred to as ‘glowing’. I wanted to share this take from Sarah Miller, Gin Expert, Drinks Writer and Judge who offered me the following thoughts:

“I’ve been in the drinks industry for about 10 years and I think I’ve been pretty fortunate. While there are plenty of supportive women out there, two fairly high profile men in the gin industry were particularly supportive of me in the early days and helped me get to where I am today (from a blogger to a freelance writer and spirits judge). There are definitely still occasions at press events and spirits competitions where the number of men (sometimes significantly) outnumber the number of women, but it definitely seems to be improving. And while I have also been in the position of struggling to get some men in the industry to listen to me/my opinion I think that’s happening less too. I tend to focus on gin/vodka, RTDs and No/Low and my sense is that women are pretty well represented in those categories but less so in whisky and brown spirits. 

“Likewise I’ve usually felt comfortable and welcome at trade events and drinks festivals with the exception of a whisky festival at which there were very few women and I did feel quite uncomfortable and unwelcome at many of the stands. I’ve also been stood at a gin stand at a festival where the male founder/owner was clearly prioritising – and pretty much only serving – the young, attractive women and ignoring everyone else. Suffice to say I have never revisited that brand and never will!” 

So moving onto Whisky. I mean this one did have a worse report as expected and detailed above. The OurWhisky Foundation set up in 2022 is a non-profit organisation, established in March 2022, to recognise, support and empower women working in whisky around the world, while advocating for a more inclusive and diverse industry. It states on its website: 

“Studies have shown that women are significantly underrepresented in whisky marketing. This male-centric imagery perpetuates the idea that whisky is not a drink for women, even as female consumers and industry professionals gain influence.” 

Sounds a lot similar to beer right? 

I asked Sarah Jeltema, “The Whisky Nomad” for a take on the whisky world. She said: 

“It’s exhausting; feeling like I have to prove myself all the time. So I strive to show up not to prove I belong in whiskey spaces, but to improve the conversation and offer something meaningful, and maybe learn from someone else too.” 

“As a woman in whiskey, I’ve had countless moments where someone assumed I needed to be taught the basics, even when I was the educator in the room. It’s frustrating, but it also taught me something deeper: stereotypes cut both ways. Just as men can underestimate women, women can misjudge men. The real progress comes when we set aside the labels and simply connect as whiskey drinkers, as people who share a love for the spirit and the stories it carries.”

Ok, so wine is often gendered as “female” and I reached out to a few wine ‘influencers’ and received nothing. So I have to raise a glass of Sauvignon Blanc to the notion that all might be well in that world. I’ll update more when I find out on my quest.

Music to my ears

Music was another natural place for comparison. It struggles with many of the same issues as beer. So what does the industry have in place to promote safer events and spaces? 

Good Night Out, Safer Spaces Now, and Girls Against are organisations often partnering with festivals and events to address harassment. More than 100 festivals / organisations also signed up to the Safe Festivals Charter in 2022 which put the onus on everyone to make the spaces safer:

“Festivals should feel safe and diverse. All party-goers can play a part in modelling a culture where everyone’s festival experience is valued and no one is made to feel uncomfortable.” 

However its platforms look pretty dormant since 2023. The modelling is there – so can beer follow its lead?

Other music festivals with notable experiences are Shambhala Music Festival (Canada) which has the Sanctuary and Women’s Safe Space tents. While Glastonbury provides Sensory Calm Spaces designed for neurodivergent attendees—featuring adjustable lighting, textures, weighted blankets, ear defenders, and autism specialists. It also has Welfare Centres staffed by Samaritans offering emotional support.

Cheer Up Luv also teamed up with Glamour Magazine to focus on Misogyny In Music. Here’s a sample from the article:

“The insidious nature of misogyny within music has been well chronicled. In the UK last year, the Musicians’ Census found that over 50% of women in the industry had experienced discrimination, and one third of female musicians had been sexually harassed.” 

The conclusion cited the positive work Good Night Out has done for safer spaces, however the venues, organisers and festivals that wanted to undergo all the relevant training noted that the affordability in the “current financial climate” was a major blocker. 

I’ll circle back to Good Night Out later in the resources section.

What has worked in beer? 

I want to take stock here and look at what has worked in both beer festivals and how safer spaces have been cultivated in general and shine a light on those. 

The Coven is the first example that springs to mind for me. I was lucky enough to be involved for two years at Leeds International Beer Festival and Pip Jolley did an amazing job of hosting a fully fledged Coven space – a teepee full of breweries and a safe space for people to celebrate beer and also take cover when things got too much. The vibes were unmatched. As part of the experience, there was a designated safe tent for attendees to hide away and reset if things got too much or even if they needed a sugary snack and a place to talk. Pip had a team of trained wellness officers patrolling the festival too. 

The Coven Teepee – Leeds International Beer Festival 2023

Ask For Angela is often the tried and trusted initiative. And Everyone Welcome is another initiative used in the past by the industry. And some breweries do their own take on it like Attic Brew Co. which I can’t disclose here for safety purposes but I can assure you they have this in place.

We often talk about Codes of Conduct which are great if everyone lives and breathes them. Hand Brew Co are a great example of this in practice.

I wanted to understand why Hand Brew Co. went down this route and Head Brewer, Kate Hyde said: 

“I like to think even before we had an official code of conduct we operated via an unwritten one anyway. Our brewery being so closely linked to two wonderful community pubs we have to have inclusivity baked into our operations. 

“I think it’s important to recognise that beer attracts a broad spectrum of generations and cultures, and we see this most at pubs and beer events. There will inevitably be moments where we need to be generous and kind and gently redirect a statement or assumption whether that is directed at us or the wider room. 

“It can be tiring and it can be upsetting or even triggering but identifying the world we want to live in is not enough and purely cancelling the people that don’t conform will not help us build it. But as they say on the aeroplane safety bit, put on your own oxygen mask first. Make sure you’re ok and if doing ‘the work’ today is too hard then thankfully this is an industry of allies and increasingly safe spaces. We can and should ask for help.” 

Cheers to that.

So, what help is available? 

I saw this BlueSky comment from Rachel Hendry, following on from my original blog about my GBBF experience – so it would be remiss of me not to encourage you to pay for some advice from the experts that know what to do. 

Times are tough and I don’t want to put the weight of activism and free labour into anyone’s court. I encourage you to reach out and invest in working with consultants and organisations that can help and guide you. 

Here’s a few:

Burum Collective of course!

And Rachel from Burum offered the following considerations to consider as a first port of call:

  • Is there training in place for volunteers? 
  • Are there places/people for volunteers and consumers to speak to / signpost / escalate when issues arise? 
  • Has a zero tolerance policy been made clear and are there people in place to see it through? 
  • What is the signage like in the event? 
  • Are there accessible toilets / bar spaces? 
  • Is everyone encouraged to drink in pints or are measures limited to halves and thirds to encourage a slower and more mindful pace of drinking? 
  • Is there enough food and water available? 
  • What DEI measures have been considered? 
  • Are these considered spaces where all feel able to participate? 
  • When something goes wrong what are the next steps, what processes are in place?

Women on Tap CIC:

Aims to ensure all women* feel welcome, are safe, and have equal opportunities in beer. They collaborate with leading bars, breweries, industry experts, and creatives to compile thought-provoking communications and distinctive, welcoming experiences designed to encourage women to find and further explore their passion for beer. They are currently searching for organisations to partner with as Changemakers and to deliver its new initiatives including a bursary scheme and buddy scheme. 

More info on the Buddying Scheme: 

“The WOT Buddying Scheme enables you to request an introduction ahead of the event day to someone you can speak to in advance and/ or who can meet you on arrival and be a buddy – as actively or passively as you would like – through the day. We fully brief your buddy on the types of things that you might benefit from before we introduce you. The level of buddying you’d like is then left up to you. Women On Tap is piloting this new buddying initiative as part of the bursary scheme for IWCBD 2026.” 

Become a Women on Tap Changemaker.

Ren Navarro:

Honestly, Ren is a tour de force with over 20 years experience of corporate customer service and management, plus 12 years hands on experience in the beer world. Ren cultivates diversity not just in beer, but beyond. Work with Ren to address the lack of diversity in a multitude of industries and work together to improve it. Start that conversation by clicking here. 

The Coven:

Work with Pip Jolly to cultivate a safe space at your festivals and get the Coven’s Wellness Officers into the mix. 

The Coven Teepee at Leeds International Beer Festival was honestly the best beer festival experience I’ve ever had! The Coven is an initiative that aims to bring diversity and neurodiversity advocacy to the beer world and the broader business landscape. They support neurodivergent individuals in accessing beer and employment, and help businesses understand and utilize their employees’ talents. 

They also run events, like the Coven Teepee at festivals, and collaborate with breweries to create beers that support good causes. 

Find out more about The Coven.

Safe Bar Network:

Is one organisation that delivers this training on mass scale in the hospitality industry. It’s US based but Safe Bar Network “​​partners with alcohol-serving venues to help them increase profit, increase repeat customers, and decrease employee turnover. We achieve these goals by training their employees to use active bystander skills to proactively prevent overconsumption, harassment, and other forms of harm. 

Currently this is primarily US based but I’ve requested up-to-date info on what they are doing in the UK as I know it is currently working with some venues this side of the pond.

Find out more about SBN.

Be inclusive Hospitality CIC:

A not-for-profit building a thriving community to accelerate race equity within hospitality, food, and drink. Hire Lorraine and her team as consultants to deliver services such as: encompassing research, advisory, culture audits, focus groups, and more.

Find out more about BIH.

Good Night Out

Good Night Out Campaign is on a mission for safer nightlife. It believes nights out should be about fun and freedom, not fear. They help event organisers and licensed venues to create safer spaces. Its accreditation programme will help you draft and communicate your policy and publicity, offer guidance on collaborating with your host venue and provides an interactive team workshop to increase your understanding of how to respond to and prevent sexual violence at your events.

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Beyond these resources there’s a range of truly great people, breweries and indie venues that run successful events so collaboration is the name of the game here. 

I really do think the future here is to work together under one banner for a common goal. Wouldn’t it be incredible to go into pubs, bars, taprooms, breweries and festivals knowing that they team/organisers have all had the same universal training and you as a guest can feel safer because you know this e.g. a Good Night Out logo when you enter and on all comms? 

All of the above I’ve written about here, falls against the backdrop of the current trading environment and pressures hospitality on the whole is facing. As well as the evolution of the drinking habits of the “next generation”. If we can’t reshape and evolve beer to be seen as more welcoming and inclusive, then there’s way more at risk. This is a whole other blog post though…


Please continue this conversation in the comments – I’d love to hear from you.

It’s a nice day for a beer festival (if you’re a man)

Yesterday, I attended The Great British Beer Festival for the first time in a few years. Mainly because it was in Birmingham and I wanted to show up and support my community – it’s the first time the event has been hosted in Birmingham in over 40 years! Also, I like beer very much (including real ale friends) and want the industry to thrive and all the venues and breweries I love to survive in this tough climate. 

Well done to the organisers, CAMRA who pulled off the move to Brum.

Sadly though, after all these years attending I can still categorically confirm that I don’t feel comfortable at GBBF.

Kimberley deep in thought at Tilt in 2021.Photo taken by Craig Spivey.

Picture not so perfect

I’ve been looking so long at these pictures of you

That I almost believe that they’re real 

I’ve been living so long with my pictures of you

That I almost believe that the pictures are all I can feel. 

  • The Cure, Pictures of you

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I feel that. Every word. 

Scrolling and scrolling. I’m stuck in an all consuming loop. This time though, I’m not sure it can be labelled as ‘doom scrolling’ because I was trawling through thousands upon thousands of photos on my phone. 

Or could it? 

Many people hate having their photo taken and as someone who in the past felt that way too, I truly get it. But as the person sitting here, phone in hand, looking at a photo of my late husband in one of our favourite pubs, I feel very, very different. The photo in question documenting that moment in full technicolour fills me with equal parts gratitude and pain. I’m glad I captured it, even though it may have been a tad annoying at the time for all involved. I also feel upset that my memory is hazy as hell due to that thing called grief.

Grief does that. It makes you question what was real and what was not. Not in a dissociative sense, but sometimes when I look at those photos I try so, so hard to remember every element of that moment. I want everything my senses were engaging in at the time to come flooding back so vividly when I stare at the photo. It hurts when it doesn’t – I feel so desperate, begging my memory and brain to give me more. In spite of this, any photos of the good times have been so important throughout my grieving process. Especially when all my brain wants to latch onto was anything but good in a grief hole. They provide me with a visual representation to help prove it wrong. 

These feelings were further compounded by visiting Tilt for my last beers and games of pinball before the shutters closed on Sunday evening (06.07.25). This was one of my favourite places – one that Craig, Flossie and I loved. The vibe was melancholy when I arrived, with the words “gutted” uttered multiple times. I peered around trying to frantically take as many mental photos of the remaining floor of Tilt that remained. Grief crept in as we raised a glass of strong stout to honour all the previous ones we’d sipped in that glorious place. After a few hours I finally managed to cadge a pound to give the Mandalorian pinball machine a last whirl. It’s what Craig would have wanted. 

So now Tilt takes its place in my camera roll, on the cloud forever but ceasing to exist in the real world. I am resigned to scanning and digesting the photos and videos I have left of Tilt. I hardly have any of me, Craig and Flossie there and I am desperately wishing that I now had more. My memory and brain can only do so much of the heavy mental lifting. Those visuals help remind me that those good times were really real. On the painful grief days I can’t overestimate how important that is. 

Some vintage 2021 photos from Tilt

Everywhere I look around our favourite venues, there’s a memory to be revisited, no matter how hazy. Sometimes it’s the songs they play, the people that work there (or hang out there), our favourite drinks or the delicious familiar foodie smells that evokes so many core memories or just really helps them to add more much needed colour inside the stark black lines of the picture. 

These bars, pubs and restaurants and the people who run them – they deserve more than being a memory,  or just a photo or video in our camera rolls. 

They aren’t just bricks and mortar, ripe spots for redevelopment for the highest bidder. They are the beating heart of our community. Not just that, sometimes they help so many people to keep their actual hearts beating. They provide a safe space, a warm hug, a friendly face and somewhere warm and welcoming when you’d rather be anywhere but “home”. I’ve been in that place a lot these last few years. I’m sure you or someone you know has too. 

I don’t want to have to grieve for another place we loved.

Do you? 

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As with all my posts here, I invite you to shout out venues (and the people in them) they you love. Come on, hospitality is a shi*t show right now and they need you more than ever. 

I took my grief for a drink

Perched on a bar stool at a wooden table with a drink in my hand. For the first time in eons, I feel ok. 

When you read that sentence, you would be forgiven for visualising that it was a pint in my hand. This time though, it’s an oat flat white. For months, it wasn’t a pint of beer in my hand. It was coffee and if it wasn’t that, it was alcohol free beer at one of my favourite local pubs. 

My late husband said he didn’t want to be “that internet cancer guy” and I really didn’t want to be the woman that drowned her grief in alcohol. My support network had reduced somewhat under the weight of being a carer and because my husband wanted to keep his diagnoses a secret outside our agreed ‘circle of trust’ and I respected his decision. For fear of my circle shrinking further to the size of a beer mat while I was deep in the trenches of grief, I pushed myself to get out in the big wide world to get a drink with my dark glasses on. 

My poodle Flossie, is a sociable pup who loves a ‘walk with purpose’, so I persuaded myself to get out into the wild, in the spirit of giving her an opportunity to indulge in one of her favourite past-times, flirting with the locals. 

When you’re in a dark place, even the familiar places are a little daunting, it all felt a bit alien. To say I was in my dissociative grief era when I first ventured out the house, is somewhat of an understatement.  I went out for a coffee and I really wasn’t expecting to do the whole thing again and return to the same place. I didn’t want to leave some kind of stormy rain cloud behind in that very place I’d visited. As an empath I didn’t enjoy this thought. I reasoned that at least if I frequented different venues that somehow it would be better for everyone involved. 

In my college days when I frequented ‘Spoons’ I’d always looked over at those men propping up the bar early doors with an “oh dear” feeling a tad sorry for them glance. Now I was one of them. Seeking some sort of connection – even if it was for just a few manageable minutes sipping a beverage. 

Warwick Street Kitchen in Leamington Spa was one of the first places I braved. Honestly, I’m not sure I could have made it through those first months grieving the death of my husband without going in there. It was more than just coffee. It was a few friendly faces and someone actually giving a shit about my day for a few minutes at a time when I wanted to bury my head for the foreseeable future. Meg and Soph at Warwick Street Kitchen gave me a free croissant after a few visits and I questioned if it was a ‘feel sorry for me’ pastry but I actually realised no, they were actually just really bloody nice! 

“The croissant of kindness” as I now call it,  was significant for me. I’d lost my appetite during the first waves of intense grief and croissants were one of the things I could actually pick at throughout the day when I couldn’t stomach anything else. Croissants were also what the kind nurse, Danielle at Myton Hospice gave me and Flossie (who stole a few crumbs) during my stay there with Craig.

One of the many WSK croissant photos from my phone.
Flossie at Warwick Street Kitchen making herself at home.

In the weeks prior to my husband slipping away, every time I walked around the town where we lived, a nauseous feeling overwhelmed me. I actually felt a slight hate for it all. And by it all, I mean everything about the town. Every time I walked past our favourite food & drink places we’d make great memories in, I felt sick. It all felt too painful and in those moments. I couldn’t even fathom visiting any of “our places” again. 

That all changed the day I said “goodbye” to Craig for the last time. When I left the hospice, shell shocked about to get into Craig’s best friend’s car I said: “shall we go to the pub?” 

Darren drove me to The Drawing Board which is most definitely one of “our places.” Subconsciously, I guess I needed to be somewhere we both loved to feel closer to Craig. That’s what my brain and heart wanted. 

When we arrived, we got seated at a table we’d sat at previously for my 40th birthday celebration. I think i was actually seated in the exact same chair. We were asked what we wanted to drink and we ordered. It felt just well, normal. The team there knew Craig and I’m not sure what I’d have done if they’d have asked where he was. Thankfully no-one did. We sat there for a good while, equal parts shock and numb sipping our drinks. After a few sips we strategised what my next step would be which included avoiding staying at home that night. 

That’s the thing, these places become home for us in some way, shape or form. 

At that moment; one of our favourite pubs, The Drawing Board, was the safe space I craved. 

The echoes of the memories we’d made there over the years bounced around the four walls there and enveloped me like a warm hug I so needed in one of the worst moments in my life. Sam and Frankie from The Drawing Board, this is probably the first time you’ve heard all this and i wanted to say “thank you” to you and your team. 

One of the many shots of the Drawing Board from my phone.


So why am I telling you all this? 

Because I wanted to spotlight both these places and highlight why these third spaces are so important. 

And I know I’m not alone. I invite you to drop a comment underneath sharing your experiences. Name checking the venues that feel like home for you. The ones that are integral to your community. Those that you’d be crushed if they closed their doors tomorrow. 

Don’t stop there: leave them a public review, share and like their social media posts, buy a gift card, spread the word – they need you now as much as you once needed them. 

Cheers and much love to all the hospitality venues and their teams that make the world a tiny bit better when someone needs it most. 

Kimberley  x 

Venues tackling loneliness this Christmas

It’s my first Christmas as a widow and luckily I have lots of invitations from friends to hang out during the festive season but what about people that aren’t so lucky?

Age UK cites that “more than 2 million older people wish they had someone to spend time with at Christmas.” And recent Government research states “more than a third of young people say they feel lonely often, always, or some of the time.” 

As someone who has worked in hospitality for most of my life, I wanted to try and put together a list of places that are doing awesome in the run up to Christmas Day, to battle loneliness in their communities. Feel free to drop me details of any venues that are doing awesome things and I’ll add them to this list!

Greene King Pubs: They recently released news that its pubs are hosting 1,400 Community Tables to ease loneliness this Christmas. This initiative is part of GK’s ‘Closer Communities’ year-round programme, designed to support those who may be more vulnerable to feelings of loneliness. They estimate that they’ll bring together 11,000 people with a free two-course festive meal, to help provide much-needed companionship to individuals within their local communities during the holiday season.

The Charlies Bar, Enniskillen has created a whole social media video ad campaign highlighting how their pub is a hub for fighting loneliness this Christmas and it is so heartwarming – John Lewis take notes.

I asked the team at the pub the inspiration behind their Christmas campaign and Manager, Una Burns said: “I think pubs, particularly in more rural locations have such a prominent role to play in combating loneliness. I have worked in our family bar since I was 15. I wanted this years Advert to reflect the reality of Christmas for some – that the festive season can be a very difficult time for anyone who has experienced grief. This isn’t always shown on the TV Adverts. I drew on the experiences and stories that I have seen and heard over the years.

“This year’s advert was meant to be a little reminder of how communities continue to need the support, warmth and connection offered by our pubs. It’s not just about Christmas; it’s about the year-round value of pubs as the beating heart of many communities.”

Please go and give Charlie’s Bar a follow on Instagram – they are awesome!

Hall & Woodhouse Pubs: Around 50 of it’s pubs will provide complimentary three-course meals for locals as part of the ‘Community Christmas Table’ initiative. 

Every H&W managed pub in the South has tables of six reserved for Christmas Day and these are available on a first come, first served basis, with waiting lists available in case of cancellation. Guests can request a seat for themselves or be nominated by another party. To get in touch, simply call, email, or direct message one of the participating pubs on social media. 

Here’s the H&W pub finder for info.

The Alexandra, Wimbledon: For the best part of a decade, Sarah and Mick Dore have welcomed people who find themselves alone at Christmas into their pub for a proper, homemade Christmas lunch. They are offering free dinner and a glass of vino – last year 161 people attended! See their Facebook post below and get in touch with the team to reserve your seat at the table.


The Sound Lounge, Sutton, London: Has a free Christmas Dinner Monday 23rd December. Details below. Link to their Instagram here.

The Duke of Edinburgh Hotel, Barrow: has set aside a table for senior citizens in the area to enjoy a complementary three-course festive dinner on Christmas Day. View the post on Facebook below to get in touch with the team.

I’ll keep updating the list – keep those listings coming 😉

Star Wars fans, here’s the beer event you’ve been looking for

Star Wars Celebration will be held in London this Easter (7th-10th April) and what better way to mark the occasion than with a Star Wars-themed craft beer party and the launch of a very special, very limited collab brew from two of the UK’s most respected craft breweries: Emperor’s and BBNo (Brew by Numbers).

Bring One, Buy Some

Part bottle (and can) share, part beer lovers hang-out – ‘BRING ONE, BUY SOME’ has been created so we can share a beer unicorn that’s gathering dust in our cupboards (or fridges), alongside supporting an amazing indie beer shop by buying one (or a few) beers to share on the evening or gift someone else at the event (a sort of ‘pay it forward’ vibe). 

Everyone is welcome. If you’re new to beer, don’t worry – you can totally sit with us. 

This event is a safe space to raise a glass, meet old friends and make new ones. The best conversations start with beer. 

The first event takes place at the Drawing Board Bottle Shop & Taproom in Leamington Spa on Thursday 22nd September at 7pm. It’s only 5 minutes walk from the train station – easy peasy. Full address for your Google Maps: 38 High St, Leamington Spa CV31 1LW.

I hope you’ll join me for a beer – I’m bring a few unicorns to share!

Up & Coming Beer Fest – Codes of Conduct

After attending the Great British Beer Festival in the past week and following the documented experiences of Charlotte and Emmie, I wanted to spend a few moments rounding up all upcoming UK beer festivals and add links to their Codes of Conduct in one place.